How do you get your kids to listen to you? #Stop yelling!
Patience! That is the one ultimate key to parenting. Also the one ultimate challenge to us parents to achieve. I must admit to being an impatient person pre-parenting stage and I am a control freak. Now that I have a 3-year old son, my patience has been tried and stretched and tested for the entire duration of my son’s existence.
When the “Terrible Two’s” came, wow that was a gruesome ordeal haha! When he became a “Threenager,” I thought we would pull thru without too much mishaps. But now that he’s at the last stretch of this stage, all hell breaks loose again. He is as obstinate and stubborn as a teenager in a 3-year old body. Whew!
What happens when we lose patience? We yell. When our kids won’t listen, we yell louder. It’s a real challenge when we compete with a 3-year old who has so much energy and can out-yell us. It takes awhile before we realize that this tactic doesn’t work.
So what does work? Stop yelling.
But how do we do that? Here are some helpful articles to guide us to achieve this seemingly impossible goal in getting our kids to listen. Click on the title or picture to read more about it.
Did you know that you can stop yelling to get your kids to listen? They will even start telling you more and really talking to you (this is what happened to us the other day).
There are many ways to help parents increase listening. However, unless a parent is clear about the intent behind her wish to be heard, no tip will work for very long.
When your child is driving you crazy, it can feel as if he’s always misbehaving. Instead of losing your cool, check out 10 ways to stay calm while still making your point and setting necessary boundaries.
The truth is that yelling scares kids. It makes them harden their hearts to us. And when we yell, kids go into fight, flight or freeze, so they stop learning whatever we’re trying to teach. What’s more, when we yell, it trains kids not to listen to us until we raise our voice. And it trains them to yell at us.
Calm Parenting—most of us aspire to it, desire it, and even promise ourselves we’re going to do it—but it’s so difficult to sustain. We know how important it is to parent from our principles rather than from our fears, but despite our best intentions we lose it and end up yelling at those we love the most — our kids.
Having a hard time getting your children to follow directions? Me too. So my friends and I decided to try our own group therapy. Don’t laugh — it works!